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What You Need To Know About Marital Affairs And Why

There are four massive reasons why people get caught when they have marital affairs and, for the most part, each of the four reasons is down to plain stupidity. If you’re going to cheat on your partner, you need to be smart. You need to come up with a story that works, and you need to come up with lies to cover your ass that doesn’t arouse too much suspicion.

On top of all of these things, you need to be one step ahead of yourself at all times. For example, do you leave yourself logged in on the extra marital affair website you have joined up to, just closing the browser when you’re done to finally meet your partner in bed an hour later than them? This is where my friend Kate got caught. She closed the browser and didn’t clear her history. She didn’t log herself out either. In fact, she asked the browser to remember her details by mistake, but didn’t really think about it.

no strings attachedThe next morning, her husband Pete came downstairs and hopped online. Just as he went to type in “HSBC.co.uk” to check his bank balance, the website “localhookups.uk” came up, he clicked on it, and because she hadn’t logged herself out, he was able to bypass the password details because she had accidentally told her browser to remember them, and read EVERY message she had sent and received on the website.

Honestly, how could Kate have been so stupid? It’s simple things like this that will get you into trouble. You don’t expect your partner to come down in the morning and type in a “h”, bringing up the website you had happened to be on the night before. You didn’t realise that asking the browser to remember your details would be quite so catastrophic.

Now do you see what I mean by needing to be one step ahead. Do yourself a favour and delete your browser history, always log out of the website you are on, and never, ever ask it to remember your details. There is even a setting on most internet options where you can request the history be deleted whenever you close the browser itself… There really is no excuse. There’s even a “private” browsing option on the iPhone that doesn’t save your search history, cookies, or websites you may have clicked on.

Now think about your phone… How often do you leave it lying around? What about this morning when your phone was on the bedside cabinet and you hopped in the shower, leaving your partner still in bed. It would have taken no time at all for he or she to pick up your phone and start reading your messages. Do you have a lock on your phone? Does your partner know it? It might be time to change it and not let them know. If you have a tendency to share phones, or they use yours a lot, get yourself a secret phone that is ALWAYS on silent and is NEVER out of your sight.

There are a few other tips that you will need to learn before you embark on your adulterous journey. Never use a shared or joint bank account to pay for anything that you are doing that is related to your affair. For example, lunches in towns you are meant to be in, or hotels or nights that you were meant to have been working really late. Always pay in cash with your lover, if you can.

So there you have it – the common mistakes made by people cheating on their partners, and how to get around them without landing yourself in the poop. These are lessons learned from experiences, and once you’ve had a few near misses, you’ll soon see how fast you can learn!

Rumours Lies And Having An Affair

Having an affair isn’t easy. It’s not something you can openly admit to, to very many people, so help is something that won’t be easily found. When you indulge in a little extra-marital activity, there are a few things that you will earn to expect. There’s the paranoia, the rumours, the lies, and everything else involved with having an affair.

The key to having a successful affair is managing to get into it, and out of it, with no one else finding out or getting hurt. Sadly, this is something not easily achieved and something as simple as a forgotten receipt or a slip of the tongue will drop you well and truly in the poop.

Having an affair isn’t something that you should get into lightly. It’s not simply a case of having bit of slap and tickle on the side to help you get through the lonely nights when you are away from your partner/not loved by your partner/can’t remember the last time you had sex with your partner… There are so many things that you need to think about – can you honestly say that you’ve got your game plan sorted?

An affair involves a lot of lying so if this is something you are not good at, it would probably be wise to just avoid doing it. I can’t lie to save my life but over the years that I have (on and off) cheated on my other half, I’ve learned to keep things simple. That’s the trick to keeping your affair a secret – the simpler you keep your tales, the more likely you are to remember them. My memory is atrocious and, as yet, I’ve never been found out. You’ll learn to adapt over time, but at first, you’re going to be all over the place.

You should NEVER, EVER get into a situation where you are having an affair with someone you or your partner knows. Always have an affair with a complete stranger. If it’s anyone close to you or your loved one, it WILL go sour. It WILL go wrong. Things are not going to end well. It’s just too close to home.

Always have an alibi, where possible. It might be worth confiding in a great friend that will cover your ass when you get into hot water. It’s not easy and you will need to expect a lecture, especially if they are a GREAT friend, but they will be there when you need them… You’ll learn who your real friends are, that’s for sure. If you have someone that can cover you with a simple “Oh yeah, she was at mine then…”, you’ll find a way of getting yourself out of any potentially sticky situations. Work is a great way to cover yourself, but not if you use the line too often.

Although you should have an alibi, make sure that is the only person you tell. Anymore than this and you are quite literally playing with fire. People WILL talk, and the fact that you have already told just the one person is putting yourself at risk, to be honest. If they don’t need to know, don’t tell them. They don’t need to know what you are doing each and every moment of the day.

Above all else, never keep a paper trail of your events. If you stay at a hotel, pay in cash or ask to use your NSA partner’s credit card. In this digital day and age, it will take just five minutes to transfer the money over to him or her. At least then you can say you lent the money to a friend rather than staying at the “King George Hotel”. As I’ve said, keep things simple. Lending the money to a friend is as easy explanation. If you make it any more complicated than this, you’re going to forget your own story.